I don’t swear very often, I might let out an expletive here or there if I hurt myself or if I am really really tired, but I could go a week without swearing without any problems. My three year old son on the other hand has learnt to say the “F” word, and it is almost always in the right context.
He didn’t get it from me, but I’m not about to play the blame game because when you are a parent you start to really notice all the swearing that is anywhere and everywhere. It is commonly accepted for adults to drop the “f bomb” , but when your little person screams it out in the middle of the supermarket because he dropped his cheese on the floor, people stop and stare.
Three is an interesting age, children begin to explore with their language and mirror those around them. I’m quickly learning to pick my battles and not make too much of a fuss if he says something he shouldn’t because how is someone so new to this world supposed to be able to differentiate between “good” and “bad” words.
Our approach as parents is to ignore it when he comes out with an “F”, and not take the first letter to represent our grade as mum and dad. The more you react, the worse it will be because once they KNOW it’s naughty they will use it like a button to turn adults into crazy people.
I do have one little tip for you if you have your own little swear bear which seems to work most of the time though, if he does say it I will calmly say “truck” or “shivers” so he has something to replace it with.
And for now, all I can do is gently steer him in the right direction, because in the long run his experimentation with words isn’t going to hurt him. That being said, after a few weeks of some embarrassing (and very public) “F%^%’s, he is now beginning to move on to a new saying – and this one I do have to take credit for – “Omigod”.
So if you happen to hear a toddler come out with a swear word, please don’t judge – because it’s all a part of learning and they are trying to work out what it means.
What are some embarrassing things your children have done to you in public?